Receiving a sincere compliment can have a huge impact on your outlook. The message can instill confidence, reinforce what is good in your life, and bring a smile to your face on a rough day. Simply put, compliments are little gifts of love.
Here are some small, but enormously kind things you can say that’ll make any ostomate’s day—and (possibly) change the way they look at themselves.
1. “The way you carry yourself is so elegant.”
Elegance is not always about the way you wear clothes, it comes from within. Admiring someone who shows gratitude for being an ostomate not only makes the person feel good, but also praises everything they’ve gone through to stay alive.
2. “I saw what you did, and it restored my faith in the human race.”
Oh, the things ostomates do!
The woman who started a local ostomy support group in her town.
The guy who picks up the bill for someone who can’t afford ostomy accessories.
The lady who walks for ostomy awareness weeks after her own surgery.
The man who offers to share his ostomy supplies with those in need, even if it means having to come out of pocket to buy more.
You may know people doing small acts of kindness. Take time to thank him or her for what they’re really doing — helping us remember that we’re all here for one reason, to serve others.
3. “You have a condition not understood by mere mortals.”
We all have something that makes us different, it’s a gift really. But living with an ostomy is not always easy, being that most media focuses on external appearances. Some ostomates might feel unattractive and alone. Understanding the reason behind these surgeries and acknowledging a person for going through them is a moment of respect.
4. “You’re incredible!”
The ostomate in your life could be upset and scared and maybe even in denial about having the surgery. Recognizing what’s really happening — that they’ve been through A LOT — can give a much needed opportunity to look at the situation with pride. Warning: these words may cause little sparks of happiness to go off inside.
5. “I actually like the sound of your stoma.”
Sometimes ostomates aren’t sure what to say or do when they have a noisy stoma. It can be embarrassing, funny and shocking all at the same time! Interestingly enough, most people don’t snicker when these so-called “toot” things come out, nor do they smell anything. Just say it, and if that’s too goofy or embarrassing, text it.
6. “Your ostomy brings me joy. It makes me happy.”
This phrase isn’t common because it might seem cheesy or we don’t know the person well enough or we don’t know what to do when ostomy leaks get messy. Saying this in an unexpected moment shows ostomates that you appreciate they are alive and well, no matter what awkward situation may arise.
7. “I love you just the way you are.”
There’s a special glow that comes when somebody likes you for who you are. If you notice that an ostomate is feeling discouraged or depressed, what they may need is your reassurance that everything is going to be okay. This phrase can be a way of expressing the most honored of human emotions: love and acceptance.
National Compliment Day is one day out of the year, but the movement lives on! Pay it forward by sharing an honest compliment to an ostomate who you admire. You never know how far it will go, and you’ll feel good about yourself knowing you’ve made someone’s day better.