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You don't have to be happy about your ostomy, or even like it. It's normal, it's OK, and I am here to support you no matter how you feel about it.

Violet Kuchar

"I am not one of those people who will tell you everything is great. I'm pissed that at age 31 I was diagnosed with cancer, and I am very pissed that I'm dying. Having limited time left doesn’t change that for me. I don’t like when people tell me I should be grateful. When I do feel grateful, I embrace it. When I am pissed, I embrace that too." – Violet Kuchar

If there's something we're all quite aware of, it's our thoughts and how easy it is to be consumed by them. After ostomy surgery, grief is natural. Griefing is a way of dealing with our new reality and it's a process that takes time. So rather than harshly judging your emotions, just be aware of them. Be kind to yourself. The truth is, neither sadness nor happiness is the right choice. Because neither is a path toward anything if you don't give yourself time to heal.