You're allowed to be sad about your ostomy, just as you are allowed to be happy

There’s no need to judge your feelings.
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You don't have to be happy about your ostomy, or even like it. It's normal, it's OK, and we support you no matter what.

Violet Kuchar

"I am not one of those people who will tell you everything is great. I'm pissed that at age 31 I was diagnosed with cancer, and I am very pissed that I'm dying. Having limited time left doesn’t change that for me. I don’t like when people tell me I should be grateful. When I do feel grateful, I embrace it. When I am pissed, I embrace that too." – Violet Kuchar

If there is something ostomates are quite aware of, it's our emotions and how easy it is to be consumed by them. After surgery, grief is natural. Griefing is a process that takes time and it's a way of dealing with our new reality. Rather than harshly judging your emotions, care for them. Care for yourself. The truth is, neither sadness nor happiness is the right choice. Because neither is a path toward anything if you don't give yourself time to heal.